Advice for Preparing for a Loved One’s Funeral
If there’s one thing nobody is ever fully ready for, it’s saying goodbye to someone that they love. Unfortunately, many of us will have to face a day where we have to say our final farewells to family members and friends by attending their funeral.
Funerals, memorials, and other celebration of life services can be overwhelming, especially in the immediate days after your Loved One’s death. That’s why it’s so important to find ways to prepare yourself for the event ahead of time.
If you’re planning on attending a Loved One’s funeral, get ready for the day by:
Talking About How You’re Feeling
It's completely natural to feel a wide range of emotions when thinking about attending your Loved One’s funeral. Whether it's sadness, anger, guilt, or even relief, it's important to acknowledge and process these feelings. Talk to friends, family members, or a therapist about what you're going through. Sharing your emotions with others can help you feel less alone and can provide you with valuable support that will help you get through the day—and years—ahead.
Inviting a Supportive Friend
Your Loved One’s funeral will feel much more bearable if you have a supportive friend by your side. Having someone who loves you standing beside you can give you the support you need to face the day. They’ll be there when you want to talk, when you could use a glass of water, or when you simply need a shoulder to cry on. Bringing someone you trust to be with you during one of the hardest days of your life can make a world of a difference.
Wearing Something That Reminds You of Them
Some people find it comforting to wear something to the funeral that reminds them of the person they have lost, such as a piece of Jewelry engraved with their fingerprint. Not only does it help you feel closer to your Loved One during the service, but it can also be a reminder that they are still with you as you move forward in life.
Getting Plenty of Rest
Dealing with grief can take a lot out of you. To ensure you’re feeling as well as possible the day of the funeral, make rest a priority in the 48 hours prior. Get plenty of sleep and even plan different times throughout the days to take a few moments alone to recharge. Giving yourself the rest you need will help prepare you mentally and physically for the memorial services.
Thinking About What You’d Like to Say
Funerals often involve opportunities for family and friends to share memories and speak about the person who has passed away. Take some time to think about what you would like to say. Whether it's a eulogy, a few words during a remembrance, or simply sharing stories with others, expressing your feelings and memories can be a meaningful and helpful part of the grieving process. Consider jotting down some notes in a journal to help you gather your thoughts and emotions before the funeral.
Saying Goodbye is Never Easy, Take Care of Yourself
As you start to prepare yourself to say goodbye to your Loved One, remember to give yourself the same kindness your Loved One always gave to you. Take the time you need to process your grief and don’t be afraid to reach out to others for comfort and support.
We’re thinking of you and wishing you the best on your healing journey.
